You will remember vividly that time when you were little and
the teacher at school threw the question “what do you want to be in the future?”
at you. You replied with “I want to be ……..” You have gone through that time of
answering such questions to becoming the answer that you had offered back then.
For some, life managed to push them away from what they had assumed was their right
answer back then.
Life is in phases. A phase is a stage or chapter of life.
That time when you were little was a phase. You could only think and want to be.
Beyond mere words, there was nothing more that could have created the image of
what the future entailed. Though the period consisted of its challenges, it was
challenges within your capacity.
We often prayed for challenges to get off our back that time
when we were little and we had huge success getting them off but you might have
observed that each challenge that got off our backs opened a door to even more
challenges.
Every phase carries its set of challenges. The close of a
challenge welcomes us to the opening of another phase and another challenge.
You may remember that you anticipated getting off the phase of primary school
into high school. It was so interesting a new phase that you wanted to jump in
almost immediately without even getting through the immediate challenge of
finishing primary school. There was always the anticipation and you prayed the
next day was the day you jumped into high school but you failed to acknowledge
the price that is required to get through the challenge.
There is a rush to get over towards something new every
time. We want to be ahead faster than our capacity to challenge in the new
phase we are yearning for. We naturally have that tendency to hurry along in
the race of life but then we observe each point on the race is a mountain that
has to be surmounted, a test that has to be resolved. We observe that the race
is sectioned, each section with its own set of rules, rules that guide all
the affairs of that section.
Where you are now is a phase of your life. It may be
challenging or easy going but it’s just a phase. A phase can offer just about
anything and everything. Sometimes we envy some other person because we aren’t
at the same position as they are. We wish we have the car, the home, the family
or the job of the man next door. Sadly though, we are wrong to think that way.
It’s good to desire something good not because a friend has
it but because it is good. However if you don’t have it, acknowledge too that
once upon a time, that friend that has what he has now never had. He got
through the same phase as you have to go through, faced the challenges and
headed out successfully. You can learn how he got off his phase and maybe
follow his steps too.
The rush life has caused many to take the wrong decisions
about their lives because they want to break away from the challenging phase
they are in. a better phase may be increasingly enticing especially when one
looks at the characteristics of the life one could live. Those who however get
there must sacrifice.
The easy route to a better phase may pay faster but has
deadly repercussions. The easy route may involve bribing, robbery, cheating,
lying, cultism etc. yes, it may seem to get you the better lifestyle faster,
but the result can be damning.
If you are facing a challenging phase, you’d be better off
learning from the challenges of the phase than jumping off the challenges
through some short route. Every challenge comes with something to learn,
virtues to imbibe that will make you a better person than you were before the
challenge. Face the challenges that rise from your phase with all the energy
that it requires.
Those you think are doing better and which you desire to be
like also have challenges that they have to challenge within their phase. They
got through similar challenges like yours when they were in your phase and have
qualified for the quality of life of their phase and the new set of challenges
which you may not notice because you aren’t in their phase.
Whatever phase you may be in, just face it.
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