No one loves criticisms. We love to find ourselves on the
good books of our friends, family, fellow workers, or fans. The possibility of
these though is slim. One way or the other, you will find some person who
thinks the best you are putting isn’t good enough.
A friend of mine was in charge of a team of young
persons. As a leader, it was great work
as leaders often face. Leaders have to put themselves down for the good benefit
of the whole. My friend did just that. He read all the leadership handouts and text
and tried improving where he was lacking. He was burning out and terribly
degrading trying to see through the projects of the team. He seemed to enjoy
the work and he was making headway. He was expecting encouragement but what he
got was a fuss, a sigh and words downgrading his achievements. He came running
to me. I smiled and said, well bro you should expect that.
There is no standard yardstick for measuring human
performance. So much as we exist in life, we obey the law of relativity. What
is considered a high standard for some person may be a low standard for
another.
Critics must exist. Some persons are more learned than others. These persons have garnered experience, which puts them in position as judges to critic some other person’s work. These judges often expect others to come to their very high standard but they fail to realize that their high standard did not come in a day. It took years of training, one the other persons may not be opportune to have.
Some persons make it a habit to criticize whether or not
they have an idea what is being done. These persons pose as busy bodies poking
their heads unnecessarily into issues without having had the requisite
knowledge to give sound judgment. They complain but can’t give solution to the
problem.
Some persons use criticisms as publicity stunt. They strive
to attract attention to themselves by criticizing government on media
platforms. They often escalate faults and seize on that to attract public
sympathy.
For those whose public status is slowly waning, they pay for
criticisms. They act out the scene as being the ideal and others, the critics,
thus attracting empathy from the public.
Criticisms though is great when it’s done in the right light
like when a lecturer critics the examination script of his students or when
someone finds a hole in a project that has been considered error proof and
brings it to the knowledge of the examiners. Criticism is great when you
observe, critic and offer solutions or positive additions. Criticism done in
humility often gains attention and consideration even when no one heralds them
than the big mouthed friends who only makes noise.
When we are criticized, we have to learn to accept them
however way they come. They may sound like some nonsense from some attention
seeking folk but listen again and you will find some sense in the criticism.
Rather than raise our voice in anger and suspicion, we
should accept the criticism and see how to build ourselves to cover the holes
that our critics have used against us.
One certain fact is that critics do often have an idea even
if they do not have all. They may seem blind but they have hindsight one they
use to their advantage.
When you do want to test the success of your project and its
flaws, your critics can be your source of results. Spy them and get what they
are saying. They are certainly saying something. Pinpoint their observations
and go about solving them.
However way we see critics and their ism’s, we need them.
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